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thinking outside the box

thinking outside the box

While taking just a few minutes to peruse Facebook this morning, I’m saddened to read posts about kids being destructive to others’ property out of sheer boredom this summer.

So, I only have one young one, so I haven’t entered the “Mom, I’m borrrreeeeeddddddd!” syndrome yet uttered from kids’ mouths who are already bored out of their goards this summer. I don’t quite understand how they can be so bored already.

Back in my day” (don’t you get tired of hearing that? LOL!) in the summer time, my sister and I always had plenty to do, my Mom saw to that. We had chores around the house, books to be read, VBS (Vacation Bible School), work in the yard with Dad, pool time & swim lessons, errands with Mom, choir tour & church camp, and trips to visit family. Honestly, there wasn’t time to be bored. If we even gave a hint of naughtiness, we’d have to deal with Dad when he got home and we did NOT want that so we found things to keep us occupied. Of course, we had our friends to spend the night, ride bikes, play outside and just plain ‘ole creativity because video games weren’t quite the rage they are today and smart phones weren’t invented yet.

My point is that we had plenty of constructive activity to keep our brains engaged and  our boredom to a minimum. There wasn’t much time to lounge around and be lazy. We were up at a decent time every morning (My Dad saw to that!) to accomplish our work and errands in the cool of the day, fun was reserved for later in the day. My Mom had us learn at an early age how to clean the house (I’m talking vacuuming, mopping floors, cleaning bathrooms and the like). I’m sure our Mom heard her share of complaints but we learned life lessons of how to work hard, the value of work, as well as earning and saving money since my parents opened savings accounts for us so we could watch our money grow and earn interest.

I hate to admit it, but I believe the downfall in negative behavior due to boredom with school age children lies largely with the parents. Children of this age are old enough to take on responsibility such as a job to earn money for the things they want. Okay, soap box moment: I heard once of a child who wanted his Mom to go back to work so (the kids) could have more money to do and have fun things. WHAT?! I’m sorry, but that is WHACK! Soap box rant over. There are plenty of jobs for kids such as a paper route, babysitting, life-guarding, pet sitting, and lawn mowing are just a few ideas. Learning age old skills such as knitting, crocheting, sewing, and the like are true talents that will serve our kids well. With Pinterest there are plenty of crafty ideas to inspire young minds to be creative, sell their wares and earn money for trips, toiletries, camps, gas, etc.

I believe these simple acts of keeping active minds busy will go a long way toward eradicating the sense of entitlement so many children and teenagers subscribe to. I think the Bible has some things to say along these lines as well:

Proverbs 31:27
She watches over the affairs of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness.
Ecclesiastes 10:18
Through laziness, the rafters sag; because of idle hands, the house leaks.
2 Thessalonians 3:11
We hear that some among you are idle and disruptive. They are not busy; they are busybodies.
1 Timothy 5:13 
Besides, they get into the habit of being idle and going about from house to house. And not only do they become idlers, but also busybodies who talk nonsense, saying things they ought not to.

Colossians 3:23                                                                                                                                  Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for human masters,…

Call me crazy, but aren’t we raising our children to be adults? On more than one occasion, I have conversed with an adult whose mission is to be the fun, hip parent; they desire to be a friend to their child rather than do the hard work of a parent. They want to be liked, and to them, the approval they seek from their kids trumps the calling on our lives to be parents.
My question to these fine people is: how are you going to equip your child(ren) for the real world when your goal is to be the “cool parent,” the one who dresses immodestly, the one who never disciplines much less sets curfews, or helps them learn life lessons that will prepare them for college and living on their own one day. And most importantly, life preparation without you as their parent, for this is probably the biggest life lesson to be learned. Grooming our children to stand on their own two feet, earning and saving money, value of hard work, cleanliness and learning how to clean house properly are all becoming such a lost art. Break the cycle and do the hard work that goes into parenting and preparing your child to fly the nest, hopefully well before they’re 20.


Taking Time To Read

Taking Time To Read

This morning as I’m sipping some hot coffee, having made my husband’s lunch and prayed with him upon his departure to another busy day at the office, I’m reading in my favorite comfy chair. I’ve been enjoying reading more and more. While I enjoy reading, I have to work it into my schedule, which has to be a conscious choice made by me. You see, I’ve been convicted lately of spending too much time on social media. For me, it has become a means of escape. You know, mindless distraction from a busy, stressful day at home raising a little person. My point is not to rant on social media, rather convey how I’ve been striving to make better use of my time.

I started reading another of one of my favorite author’s books, Beautiful In God’s Eyes, by Elizabeth George. By no means is this a new publication. To me, new or old, it is timely wisdom for the season I’m in. Quite honestly, this book would apply to just about any season I’ve found myself in! It is about the treasures of the Proverbs 31 woman. Such wisdom is found within the pages of this book. I find myself wanting to read more and more of it even though the attributes of this Proverbs 31 woman seem difficult to ever attain. This woman is someone I’d aspire to be, a true heroine.

By no means is it an easy read, but a convicting one. However, I believe as women we all fall short of these attributes described here. You might be thinking, why read about someone you’ll never feel the satisfaction of becoming, only to be disappointed time and time again? My answer to that question quite simply is this, I realize that there is no way this side of heaven I could ever come close to having this woman’s attributes and character; however, with God’s help and transformation in my life, it is possible. My part is to partner with Him, allowing His Holy Spirit to transform, shape, renew and fix my mind on the things of Him. A tall task for sure, but thankfully, our God is in the miracle business!

Whether you read this book, or another, I’m encouraging you (and me, for that matter!) to choose to put uplifting and encouraging truth in your mind, to invest in bettering yourself as a wife, mom, and woman of God. From this, everything else will flow. More importantly, though, is to read God’s Word; His book trumps all other reading. Within its pages can be found topics on parenting, being an excellent wife and mother, guarding your heart, as well as learning of the Lord’s wisdom and knowing His heart.

Sure, God inspires authors to write, encourage, inspire, and even teach us. What I’ve learned though is that we must be discerning (something else to pray for!) in what we read and who has authored it. I’ve come to understand that just because a book has been recommended to me by someone I admire, or just because I find a book in my local Christian bookstore, doesn’t mean that this book is something of value for me to read. Why, you ask? There is value in researching an author. Look at and read the endorsements given for his publication; do you know these people and their teaching? Research who this author is, his beliefs and his teachings. You certainly don’t want to put false doctrine into your mind. His writing will flow from his teaching and beliefs and if his values and belief system are not in line with God’s teaching, then this book you are considering is probably not going to be something you should read.

In closing, fill your mind with God’s Word and know His truth and teachings well so that you will be better equipped to discern whether something you are considering reading is of value or not. Believe me, there is plenty of unbiblical teaching written, published and housed on many a shelf at even our Christian bookstore. I witnessed this first-hand having worked in a Christian bookstore for many years. I had so much respect for the owners of our store who, despite flack and lost sales, chose not to carry books by certain authors. It is sad, but so very true. We have to remember that there are wolves dressed in sheep’s clothing…even in our local bookstores.