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It’s a New Year!

It’s a New Year!

While I’m not a resolution making girl, I do enjoy perusing Facebook to take a peek at what others are resolving to do in the new year. Personally, I don’t make them because I tend to peter out early after attempting to go gangbusters all at once. I believe the key is to take small, baby steps until it becomes a habit (like 21 days, I think?).

Typically, one of the most common resolutions I see across social media is to get fit, and even lose weight. Not a bad idea and one I would benefit by ascribing to myself! So far in the infancy stage of this new year, I’ve seen everything from dream board parties to paying off debt plans, to being more intentional with people rather than cyber-friendships. One thing I haven’t seen much of so far is the desire to be intentional about growing in relationship to Christ. For me, this is one resolution I can sink my teeth into. I feel like it is out of this relationship that everything else stems from. Admittedly, since becoming a mother, I have struggled to keep my relationship with Christ my number one priority. I can’t say I wasn’t warned this would probably happen…

One of the best ways I can take care of myself is to spiritually feed my mind and soul. Hearing God’s Word spoken, reading it, meditating on it, praying it, and committing it to memory is what we were created to do as believers. I don’t know about you, but becoming a mom has quickly diminished time for myself. To be a good wife and mom, the most important thing I can do for myself is to spend time daily in His Word, after all, it’s our guidebook for living. In order to live how He has instructed me to live, I need to know what His Word says.

These days, “self-care” has come to mean the spending of money on yourself in the form of nails, salons, tanning, personal training, travel, botox…and the list goes. However, the best self-care in my opinion is to be a woman in God’s Word. All other ideals mentioned aren’t necessarily bad in and of themselves but they all share the same common denominator=superficial. At the end of my life, none of those things will matter or last. Additionally, finances are needed to keep the wheel of indulgence turning. Think about it: do you want to be remembered for your pretty nails, or tanned skin? Or, do you want to be remembered as a woman who revered God and spent her life growing to be more and more like Him?

My desire for the year 2018 is to be intentional about being in God’s Word daily and to allow it to shape who I am rather than succumb to the world’s influence. To turn to Him with my worries, fears, and problems first before exhausting all my resources and then in a last-ditch effort, seeking Him as my rescuer. To see life through His perspective rather than fear what may be lurking around the corner; and to realize that life is not about perfection, money, and things or a problem-free existence.

One way I hope to grow in my knowledge of Him this year is to try this Bible reading plan, which in my opinion, offers a little grace with reading only 5 days a week rather than 7. http://bibleclassmaterial.com/Catalog/Mark%20Roberts/BibleReadingSchedule.htm Of course, there are many, many different plans, tools, and scheduled reading choices out there. This is one that was recommended to me and looks to be a little more doable as a mom.

Won’t you join me??






do you ever….?


Dear Momma,

Have you ever just closed your tired eyes and dreamed of where you’d like to go, at least in your mind’s eye? Somewhere further away than even Calgon can take you? If money weren’t an option and you were told just to pack your bags and hop aboard a plane to a destination of your choice….what would you choose? I’m getting excited now!!!! For me, I’d have to choose the beach.

Thoughts like this are usually quickly forced back into the recesses of my mind when my soul is jarred awake into the reality of craziness. You know, like the breaking of a lamp, the sound of money flying across the wood floor because a bank has broken, or even worse, the screams and cries for help in the night because of a bad nightmare.

Well, today has been one of those days for me. Actually there have been several of those type days for me this week. Days where you’d love to go bury your head in the sand and forget all your troubles. Ever have days like this? Do you ever wonder if other Mommas have the same trials as you? If they can hear you losing your temper yet again? If you’re starting to wonder if perhaps you might’ve misunderstood God’s calling upon you to be a Momma because you honestly don’t know what the heck you’re doing?  I dare say I am not alone, and neither are you. Satan in all his craftiness and truth-twisting ways wants us to buy in to the lie that we are alone and ill-equipped at this thing called Motherhood.

What is that saying, “God doesn’t call the equipped, He equips the called”. Boy, I have been thinking of that saying quite often today. I’ve been taking lots of deep breaths as my child tells me yet again, “you’re so mean!” or throws a crazy fit in the middle of the kitchen floor because he wants a snack 10 minutes prior to dinner being ready, or he poops on the floor for the 2nd time today, or breaks out of his seat belt while I’m driving him to school. Yep, those kinds of days. The hard days. The days you just wish you were in the midst of a really bad dream and it’s not your reality.


These are the days that I’m learning are excellent days to give myself attention. When the time is appropriate, of course; like once your husband is home and dinner is finished. Honestly, I don’t indulge as I should enough. Most of the time, the devil fills my mind with what a terrible selfish Mom I am that I should want to go to the store by myself in peace. After all, my own internist has asked me time and time again if I’m taking advantage of getting out more on my own just to decompress. Sadly, I shake my head “no” and we talk about why it’s healthy to get out once in awhile. I’m not taking about hanging out at a bar, indulging in alcohol, taking advantage of your husband’s good nature, or skipping out on a night when your family needs you most. And I certainly don’t mean spending money that you don’t have on splurges that you don’t need.


I researched this very thing myself….treating without spending and here’s some tips: read a book, take a nap, visit with a girlfriend, shave, pray, popcorn & Netflix, color, take a bubble bath, have some tea, get a complimentary make-up tutorial at the mall, journal, exercise, listen to some tunes or a podcast you enjoy, go for a walk, de-clutter, bake something, call a friend, paint your nails, knit or crochet, go to the pool, do some gardening, window shop, and even play with the kids. I thought this was a good list, actually. Allowing some much-needed alone time help us to be better Mommas. What is it that we’ve heard a zillion times on the airplane pertaining to the oxygen mask? You must first put yours on, then help your children with theirs.

Pinterest is a great place to find ideas such as these. The takeaway: self-care is not being selfish, it’s being healthy. No one else will take care of you. Take care of yourself and see if the whining, crying, fussing, fighting, yelling seems a little more removed and breathe in some fresh deep breaths. IGBOKpeople-1316266_1920.jpg