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in the trenches


If there’s one thing I’ve learned in my years here on this earth, it’s that parenting is not for the faint of heart. Don’t get me wrong, I wouldn’t trade being a Momma for anything. It’s the hard lessons, discipline, tears, and endless work needed to accomplish the end goal of raising an independent, well-adjusted, God-fearing child. The saying, “the days are long, but the years are short” resonates in my head this morning as I ponder the next right steps to take. I am reminded of the scripture, “A man’s mind plans his way [as he journeys through life], But the Lord directs his steps and establishes them.” (Proverbs 16:9)

I have been diligently pouring over God’s Word in this particular trench my family finds itself in. I find such comfort in the Psalms. He can be trusted, when it seems all others fail or aren’t there for you. His Word promises He will never leave or forsake us. I believe that and place my trust in Him.

Stay in the Word, press into Him and don’t give the enemy a foothold. He desires to break apart families, marriages, and homes. Don’t wait until you find yourself in crisis mode to seek the Lord. Be in His Word, take it in like a vitamin for the body. Call out to Him, hide His Word in your heart. Let go of a desire to control and release those reigns into His hands. He will carry you and me through times of trouble.

In all your ways know and acknowledge and recognize Him, And He will make your paths straight and smooth [removing obstacles that block your way]. Proverbs 3:6

The Lord is my Helper [in time of need], I will not be afraid.
What will man do to me?” (Hebrews 13:6)

I will never [under any circumstances] desert you [nor give you up nor leave you without support, nor will I in any degree leave you helpless], nor will I forsake or let you down or relax My hold on you [assuredly not]!” (Hebrews 13:5)













From time to time, I ponder whether or not to remain on facebook. I feel like some of you will get me, while others may shut me down. That’s why I’m in a real quandary.

There are so many things I love about connecting with people I’ve not seen or heard from in a zillion years! When I happen upon a newsworthy post, it is a good thing making me happy for my connection. However, if you’re like me, you are growing rather tired of only seeing the ‘highlight reel’ of everyone’s lives. This is where I struggle. I think it causes others to feel discontent with where they are in life, what they have, who they have, where they’re not traveling to. Y’know? This then leads to the almighty comparison trap. What really gets me in a jerk though is when people are hurt because of being left out of an event they weren’t included in. It’s like those who have excluded others tend to forget that for a moment and go all out posting pictures of all the fun they experienced while those left out are seeing it blasted all over social media. This especially sticks in my craw when it involves my child. Never mind that he’s “just four” and that he doesn’t have his own social media accounts to see for himself. What matters is that I, as his Momma see it. I get it that we have limits to how many can be invited to a party…makes total sense. But don’t go and blast it all over facebook with pictures galore of the fun that my child is not included in. It hurts my heart.

If you’re close to tuning me out because you’re thinking, “she just needs to get over it!” then hold the phone a minute. Why is it that so many adult women are feeling left out and alone from social events? Honestly, it almost feels like high school sometimes with the invention of facebook, only the cliques are broadcast all over your broadband. If social media was designed to bring us all together, then why is it making people feel so alone? Why are there more marriages coming to an end? Why is there cyber bullying? Why are more and more people feeling less and less content?

I truly want to believe that so-called “posters” on social media don’t mean any harm. They just want to share their pics with all their zillions of “friends”. Or, the wife who always receives the most gorgeous bouquet of flowers “just because”. Or, the proud Mommas and Daddies who post pics of their darling who made it on the cheerleading squad; received a ginormous full-ride scholarship to their dream school; had the dreamiest prom; made the best grades; went on the most awesome senior trip…..and on and on it goes. I haven’t even gone into the lavish vacation pictures we all see plastered everywhere, never mind this may just be “so and so’s” second trip to Disney and third cruise within six months. Seriously? What about those who can barely make ends meet? What about those who are lonely singles or struggling to hold their marriage together?

Lest you think I’ve not participated in any facebook faux pas, I have. Sure, I’ve posted pictures of a trip to the beach or my child’s birthday party, even flowers my husband brought me “just because”. I, too, am guilty as charged. Does that make this any less of a problem though? I don’t think so.

Whether I decide to remain on social media or not is still unknown. My husband reminds me that it all depends on what you do with facebook. I don’t mean to pick on facebook per se; it’s really all social media. I have learned many important events such as weddings, engagements, illnesses, deaths, new jobs, baby announcements, and connected with many long lost friends through social media. I’ve been encouraged by its posts, convicted by its posts, felt left out by its posts, envious by its posts and all the rest. I have a girlfriend who is not on facebook for all these reasons and more, challenge me to give it up for a week. a month. two months, and on and on, as a test to see if I really need it in my life.  Something to ponder for sure.

I’m really curious what you, my followers, think of the glorious invention of social media. Sure, there are pros and cons. However, do the cons outweigh the pros? Do we really need to be connected in every way imaginable to know what’s going on, or can we survive going back to being in real fellowship with our friends… in person….. catching up on all the news? Is it possible we might even be more productive if we we weren’t linked to the social feeds? Something to ponder for sure, which is why I battle with to leave or to stay. Let me hear from you!

What in the World?

What in the World?

Watching the news is so depressing and anxiety riddling. You need only to listen to the morning’s headlines before you can feel emotionally paralyzed. While the answer can not be found in burying our heads in the sand and unplugging from all things news, we need to be grounded. We need to find our hope in something, or Someone greater than ourselves. What is the answer then when all we hear is news of gloom and doom, disaster, destruction, murder, terrorist attacks and disease?

The world needs Jesus. There, I said it. We are lost, living in a fallen world. The Bible speaks of days like this. Hard, difficult, ungodly acts that we experience today and every day. Just read God’s Word; it’s full of heartache, heartbreak and difficulty. We are not immune from anything in this life. Depressing as it sounds, this life we live here is not all there is. Thank goodness! It is not and never will be our paradise. Entitlement is not reality. Whoever has the most toys in the end does not win. Obtaining the best education, securing the best job and earning the most money doesn’t guarantee us squat. Having millions of dollars will never be enough and will never buy us what is lasting or satisfy our deepest longings. Doing A + B does not always = C.

Before you decide to throw up your hands in despair and hopelessness, or worse, read on…..

What is the answer then? Rather than “What to do?” it’s “Who to follow?” The answer is found in Jesus Christ. He is our only Hope.  By choosing to follow Christ, we are promised eternal life with no more pain, no more tears, no more death or disease. While life this side of heaven can be good, fulfilling even, exciting and happy sometimes, it is fleeting and certainly not a guarantee or constant. It all boils down to this one truth: em tuoba ton s’ti, translated “it’s not about me.” Plain and simple, when we exchange our life for His, we begin to see our lives through a whole new lens. No longer is it me in the driver’s seat, but Him. While this may seem like living a life out of control, it is about Him being in control because He knows all things and His ways are higher than ours. If this seems like a huge revelation, we were never really in control of anything anyway.

Allowing Christ to  order the steps of your life and direct your path is quite freeing actually. He changes our “want to,” exchanging our thoughts, desires, plans and control for His. Remember the old TV show, “Father Knows Best”? Well, our heavenly Father really does know best. He has written your story and mine. He has great plans for your life. He loves you infinitely more than you could ever dream of loving yourself. When we see our lives through His lens, we begin to see that this life we’re living is just temporal. It’s a short, brief blip on the screen. Don’t put all your stock in this life. Invest in your future which is hidden with Christ. He gives us hope, peace, joy untold despite how we are feeling, or even what we see on the news. Don’t miss another minute worrying or stewing about tomorrow. Twila Paris’ song, “God is in Control” is true. I’m glad I don’t have to depend on my limited resources to be in control….of anything. I have and would make a complete mess of my life. Decide to let Jesus “take the wheel” of your life and choose to follow Him every day that He has given you. After all, the end of this life is only the beginning of life forever with Him.

“For God so loved the world that He gave His only Son. Whoever puts his trust in God’s Son will not be lost but will have life that lasts forever.” (John 3:16)

If you do not know Jesus Christ as your personal Lord and Savior, do not delay one. more. minute. Decide today to choose Him. He is our Hope, our Anchor, our Creator, our Savior, our Redeemer, our Healer, our Great Physician. He does all things well.

Blessings on your day!