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Are you a shrew?


Just the other day, I caught a portion of one of my fave radio broadcasts, *Revive Our Hearts, where Nancy is currently teaching on the Titus 2 Woman. She illustrated a point she was making within her teaching by reading a letter she’d gained permission to share. I encourage you to go to her website and read or listen to the podcast of this message in its entirety. For now I’m only focusing on a snippet of the message.

So, the woman who wrote the letter describes herself as being a shrew. Ever heard of a one? Well, let me tell you, it’s not very becoming. The dictionary describes a shrew as, “a woman with a violent, scolding or nagging temperament; a scold.” Ouch! I told ya so, you do not want to be known as a shrew!

Better to live alone in a tumbledown shack than share a mansion with a nagging spouse. (Proverbs 21:9,MSG)**

This part of the broadcast caught my ear and begged me to continue listening. I started to feel convicted. I thought back to some occasions when I’ve felt as if I’d been invaded by this not-so-nice character that is sometimes angry and scolding. For instance a rainy, stormy Monday like today, when my 4 year old can’t go outside to burn some energy and is driving me up the wall with his non-stop running back and forth throughout our house loud and boisterous. Thankfully, I’ve had some time to cool down before my husband arrives home from a busy day at the office. The last thing I want to do is greet him at the door as a shrew!

Or perhaps, there is a “honey do list” you’ve created for your husband and you’re out of sorts that he’s not completed any of the tasks you’ve asked him to do. It may take all your will power to keep from nagging him until he finishes these jobs on your timeline, but a nagging wife is not becoming to her husband. I know I wouldn’t want anyone nagging me! Sometimes, we women need to ask the Lord to tame our tongues.

Gracious words are a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing to the bones. (Proverbs 16:24)

The remedy? To be in constant community with God. Allow Him to search your heart, your motives, your thoughts before they take over. God’s Word tells us that we must not conform to the world, but be transformed by the renewing of our mind.

Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will. (Romans 12:2)

The takeaway: Don’t allow yourself to be carried away by your emotions (as women often do), causing you to be a nag, scold, or even a shrew. Take it to the Lord and allow Him to transform your thinking. Perhaps you are the change that needs to happen rather than harping on someone in hopes of getting them to do what you want them to do.

The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit.(Proverbs 18:21)

*www.reviveourhearts.com                                                                                                      **This verse reminds me of a guy in my singles’ Sunday school class years ago who always enjoyed pointing this scripture out to unsuspecting women.




No, No, NO!

No, No, NO!

There is this book, “No, David!” that my Mother-in-law has at her house. Every time we visit, this book is well-read. My son absolutely loves it! He thinks it’s so funny that this boy, David, is always getting in trouble for doing naughty things and ultimately being disobedient to his Momma. I have to admit, it is a humorous book!

What intrigues me is that this book could really have my son’s name in the title because “NO!” is the word he hears most often. You would think my child would be so sick of hearing “NO!” that he’d flatly refuse to be read such a book, entertaining or not.

The thing is, this little 2-letter packs a lot of punch. “NO!” is negative and after awhile, in my opinion, kids tune this little word out. They simply don’t hear it. Now, let me tell you, I’ve used the “NO!” word plenty of times in every which way you can imagine, I’ve shouted it. I have learned that positive attention yields a much better response.

I’m sure by now you’re thinking I’ve lost my mind. Try it, though, you might surprise yourself at how well it works. Rather than only looking for the bad and abruptly shouting “NO!” try looking for the positive things throughout the day that your child is doing. I believe you will find, as I have, that words such as “good job!”, “well done!”, “you look so nice!” will take you much farther than uttering an angry “NO!”

“Kind words are like honey—they cheer you up and make you feel strong.”                  (Proverbs 16:24, CEV)