Category Archives: October 2017

social media worthy

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As I was scrolling through my facebook feed this week, I happened upon a post from a former co-worker and friend of mine.  I noticed she’d posted pictures of different rooms in her house, all in different stages of “messiness,” (her words, not mine). The pictures are what beckoned me to read on. Inspired by her words, I asked permission to share them with you. Here is what she wrote:

I was talking with my wise friend, _______, this weekend about my messy house/car, lack of cooking and overall frenzied pace. She encouraged me, and I’m passing it on, that at least we are present in the moment, and the rest doesn’t matter. I walked around the house yesterday and just took pictures. Once I was done, I was reminded of just how beautiful our “messy” lives are: a science project (and parts all over the place), decorating a pumpkin for a contest (with glue everywhere), notes from kids, box tops collections (and loving the interactions with incredible families from our school), two sizes of shoes laying in the middle of the floor that represent a camping trip with the boys and other great Boy Scouts families, a not so neatly written *Bible verse that is the key to all of this, and finally hugs – not when they are convenient time-wise, but when my incredible husband is running late, yet ALWAYS makes sure to hug each of us, and from an unprompted sister who thankfully adores her brother. None of this was staged and that’s what makes it pretty. 🙂 Hopefully you can stop for a moment in your day, to see the beauty that surrounds you too.

Yes! A thousand times YES!!! How I love what my friend shared in her facebook post. Nothing could be truer or more accurate than this!! While I would be lying if I said I don’t, at times, covet a beautifully kept, minimalistic, non-cluttered, meticulous home. Goodness knows in my perfectionist mindset I would simply adore my home mimicking the cover of the latest Southern Living magazine. Only in my wildest dreams! Honestly— I struggle, stress, fret, agonize whenever we have anyone over, which is precisely why it is a rare occasion that we entertain. Sad, but true, since we’re the ones who are missing out. What I want is perfection in every way and sometimes I get literally sick, even angry, that it’s just not to be, at least not in this season of my life. Yes, I fight it tooth and nail.

Why, you do not even know what will happen tomorrow. What is your life? You are a mist that appears for a little while and then vanishes. (James 4:14, NIV)

 

I’m thankful for my friend, Susan, and her wise words. Life is but a vapor and while our Littles are all about our feet, let us seek to make the most of every moment and treasure the memories made with them. One day, my home will feel all too quiet and I don’t want to look back on these years with regret fretting over my IMperfect house, wasting precious time. It has been said, ‘the days are long, but the years are short’. Let’s seek to find beauty in the messes. Would we not prefer our children remembering happy times spent together rather than recalling Mommy too busy and frenzied in an attempt to keep a perfect home? After all, the most comfortable homes I’ve been in are the ones which aren’t perfect!

*I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want.  I can do all this through him who gives me strength.(Philippians 4:12-13)

Chasing tails

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Ever feel like you’re chasing your tail? Please tell me I’m not the only one who does this! Seriously, I’ve been dropping balls lately and it really bothers me. It’s not like me to forget to do something or be somewhere on time (within 10 minutes anyway). Heck, I scheduled and managed schedules for a living in my ‘working girl’ life, for heavens’ sake! (Maybe I shouldn’t admit that!)

I’m a paper calendar kinda gal. I know, super old school but it all began in my ‘working girl’ life (before all our modern technology, mind you) that I tweaked and perfected what worked best for me. I quickly learned to keep meticulous notes should someone challenge me. Once the computer took the typewriters’ place, I kept my paper calendar. I still do. I find immense comfort knowing that I can easily amend details. However, writing is a different animal. I much prefer my laptop over the archaic pen and paper method. Go figure! Each to his own, I suppose.

I digress…

For whatever reason, this year has been a little more challenging between keeping mine, my husband’s, and now my son’s social calendar. Are you laughing at me?! The kid had four birthday parties within a couple short weeks, two of which were on the same day, yet different times. Get my drift? I lonnnnged for my paper calendar to edit and organize my thoughts. I tend to create check boxes: do I have a gift purchased-check, did I RSVP-check, did I purchase the pumpkin for the preK patch-check. Scary, I know, yet this is how my brain works!

Needless to say, I feel like my mind is on overdrive most days… always somewhere to be, something to take, pick up, purchase, hence the chasing of the proverbial tail. To be honest, I detest living this way. It wears me out, stresses me out, even causes me to be physically sick at times. Why do I do what I don’t want to do? This is the life we live, yet, we choose to live this way. I have one (1) child who recently turned five (5) and our schedules have quickly picked up. We limit our calendar of activities, yet tend to spin our wheels.

Hence my new morning read, Keep A Quiet Heart, Elisabeth Elliott. Within its pages, I’m reminded to sit at the feet of Jesus, take in His Word, fill my thoughts with His thoughts, and seek only to please Him. Boy! When I look at life through His lens, suddenly the hamster wheel starts to slow a bit. My focus turns to what really matters and what my priorities need to be in the present stage I’m in. I find myself desiring a more peaceful existence as the years roll on. Ultimately I find that my son just wants to spend time with me, his Daddy, as well as his extended family and friends. Making lasting memories by taking the time to sit down to play cars, allow our imaginations take over, let him help me around the house by folding clothes, running the vacuum, or setting the table fill his little love tank. Simplicity.

Since life is short and there aren’t any guarantees for what tomorrow holds, let’s strive to make the most of each day. Simply spending time together, listening, playing, relaxing without being a slave to the clock, is a recipe for a day of not taking life too seriously. Now, I need to take a dose of my own medicine!! Let’s go have some fun!