Category Archives: April 2015

Be In The Moment

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So, my husband likes to tease me about how focused I get when talking to  someone. He says “You are completely oblivious to whatever else is going on when you are talking to someone”. However, he’s quick to follow up that statement with this one: “You are such a good listener and give your full attention to whomever you’re talking to, making them feel like the most important person in the room.” Now that to me is a huge compliment.

In all honesty, I tend to like his second comment better than his first! While it may seem like I’m oblivious to whatever else is going on while I’m in conversation with someone, it is my way of cutting out the distractions all around me that pull my attention from the person I’m trying to talk to. If I’m being completely honest with you, I get easily distracted. You see, I’ve always been the gal who prefers to sit front row center at church, movie or some type of meeting. Why? My eyes get pulled in every direction but where they should be. I’ll be sitting there thinking, ‘sure like her haircutI’ or ‘that is such a cute outfit, I wonder where she got it‘ or ‘what in the world are they doing?’

I really aim at giving my full attention to my son. Even now, as I’m typing this, my son is wanting to sit in my lap while I’m thinking and writing. He wants to be with me, not just in the same room. He wants my full attention. I’m not always able to focus completely on him as I’d like such as when I’m trying to cook supper, at the grocery store, and even driving. But, I try to make a conscious effort of focusing on him, as if he’s the most important person in the room, when we’re playing or spending time together outside. This has to be a conscious effort on my part. Just like you, I like to check my messages, peek in at face book, or make a phone call. My son is fully aware of these stolen moments. As a matter of fact, he’ll even go as far as close my laptop or take my phone!

Taking this just a bit further, how do we think God likes it when our attention is anywhere but on HIm? After all, the God of the Universe wants to spend time with us. Did you get that? The God of the Universe wants to spend time with you! Even though we as Moms feel completely pulled in all directions just about every moment of every day, especially if you have more than one child, we need to be intentional and choose to carve out just a few minutes within the busyness of our day to connect with Him. This helps us to re-fuel, to fill ourselves up with the truth so we can be all we can be for our family.

Consider changing your perspective. Consider putting your cellphone down. Turning off your laptop, putting up your book or turning off that great tv program you’re engaged in so that you can be in the moment with your child(ren). At the end of the day, you’ll be so glad you did! Time passes quickly and one day we’ll want to look back and see that we really connected with our children. After all, our children are gifts from God. Ultimately, they belong to Him and are loaned to us for awhile. A blink of an eye, really.

I challenge you, as I challenge myself, to be in the moment. Try it. You can always re-connect with your phone, laptop, movie or whatever distraction pulls you away from your child when they are napping or are at Mothers’ Day Out. Kids crave our attention. Don’t choke them out of your schedule. As I’m finishing this message up, my little is scooting so close to me that you couldn’t get a penny between us! Precious times.

 

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So, I learn quite a bit from my very active toddler son. If I look for it, I can draw spiritual lessons from him.

Often, I’ll hear my son ask for “More” of something. Not uncommon for any mother to hear, really. It’s just that I noticed that quite frequently when my son asks for more of something, I realize that he has quite a bit of whatever it is he’s asking for more of. Sometimes, he’ll actually dump out whatever he has in his snack cup and exclaim “More!”

It was on one of these occasions that I found myself drawing a spiritual lesson from his comment. How many times do I ask God for “More”? More money, more things, more food, more vacations, more space, more, more, more! In writing this even now, I feel that I sound like a spoiled brat. “I want MORE!”

It was then that I contemplated that what He has given me is enough. Enough for today. Enough for right now. Enough for this chapter of my life. We don’t have to squander, we don’t have to be stingy, we don’t have to withhold. I don’t believe this is what God would have us to do until more is given. I believe we are to share and be generous with what we have. After all, Scripture tells us that God loves a cheerful giver. That doesn’t have to relate to money or finances.

Use what you have. Use it wisely. More will be given as God deems necessary and timely. He knows best. For now, focus on what you have. Oftentimes, I find that He multiplies what I have. Really? You may be asking. Why yes! As a SAHM, I am amazed at how He has multiplied funds, stretched our dollars and squeezed our pennies. Truly. I believe being a SAHM honors Him. I want to be a good steward of what He has entrusted to me. I have enough.

 

When Do We Have Enough?

What really matters…

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It’s a New Day!

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sunrise_62312_a_205870The sun is shining as I’m sitting here enjoying a cup of coffee before my day jumps into action! Today, I’m trying to keep my focus simple because I know at any minute my son will wake up and all hopes of a quiet time of any shape or fashion will be dashed once again.

Thankfulness is my prayer today. Thankful that I am a SAHM. Thankful that I have a toddler. Thankful that I have a husband who has a job and works hard, allowing me to stay home. I heard it said recently that when you feel frustrated with your same mundane tasks of picking up after everyone, think about how thankful you are that you have a husband to pick up after. Be thankful for the child you have who is loud and makes noise because that means you have a healthy child. Wow! There’s a whole new perspective.

Albeit simple, today I will choose to focus on thankfulness. The Lord is the Giver of every good and perfect gift. And, when I’m struggling with yelling at my toddler for the tenth time, I’m hoping my mind will reflect back upon these words: be thankful. I have to choose it though. We all have a choice everyday. What will it be for you today? Why not choose thankfulness.

Blessings on your day!

James 1:17 “Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights, who does not change like shifting shadows.” (NIV)