There is this book, “No, David!” that my Mother-in-law has at her house. Every time we visit, this book is well-read. My son absolutely loves it! He thinks it’s so funny that this boy, David, is always getting in trouble for doing naughty things and ultimately being disobedient to his Momma. I have to admit, it is a humorous book!
What intrigues me is that this book could really have my son’s name in the title because “NO!” is the word he hears most often. You would think my child would be so sick of hearing “NO!” that he’d flatly refuse to be read such a book, entertaining or not.
The thing is, this little 2-letter packs a lot of punch. “NO!” is negative and after awhile, in my opinion, kids tune this little word out. They simply don’t hear it. Now, let me tell you, I’ve used the “NO!” word plenty of times in every which way you can imagine, I’ve shouted it. I have learned that positive attention yields a much better response.
I’m sure by now you’re thinking I’ve lost my mind. Try it, though, you might surprise yourself at how well it works. Rather than only looking for the bad and abruptly shouting “NO!” try looking for the positive things throughout the day that your child is doing. I believe you will find, as I have, that words such as “good job!”, “well done!”, “you look so nice!” will take you much farther than uttering an angry “NO!”
“Kind words are like honey—they cheer you up and make you feel strong.” (Proverbs 16:24, CEV)