Comparison. What is it and Why do we do this? Why do we hurt ourselves and others?
“To Compare” means: to say that (something) is similar to something else/to look at (two or more things) closely in order to see what is similar or different about them or in order to decide which one is better/to be as good or as bad as something else : to be on the same level or in the same category as something else
That’s how Webster defines it. Let’s see what Scripture has to say about it:
“Since this is the kind of life we have chosen, the life of the Spirit, let us make sure that we do not just hold it as an idea in our heads or a sentiment in our hearts, but work out its implications in every detail of our lives. That means we will not compare ourselves with each other as if one of us were better and another worse. We have far more interesting things to do with our lives. Each of us is an original.” (Gal. 5:25-26, The Message)
“Make a careful exploration of who you are and the work you have been given, and then sink yourself into that. Don’t be impressed with yourself. Don’t compare yourself with others. Each of you must take responsibility for doing the creative best you can with your own life.” (Gal. 6:4-5, The Message)
I really love what the first of the Scripture readings says, “each of us is an original“. So true and yet, we as women are the worst about getting into a ‘hen party’, as I call it, and pick each other apart. We judge one another through our comparisons. In essence, we’re really saying, if she looks like me, talks like me and has same basic interests as me then she’s in! She’s one of the cool kids. This is not what God would have us to do.
“For by the grace given me I say to every one of you: Do not think of yourself more highly than you ought, but rather think of yourself with sober judgment, in accordance with the faith God has distributed to each of you.” (Romans 12:3, NIV)
Additionally, we like to compare ourselves to others and their achievements or status in life. This is not a physical comparison, rather we judge ourselves according to what our friends have and how we measure up. For instance, she lives in that neighborhood so they must be financially set. Or, they drive a _____ car…what’s wrong with me? I work at the same company they do and I can’t afford to drive a _____. Or, wow! I saw on ______ (social media site) that so & so is on this amazing vacation to _____, why can’t we be there? Or, her husband packs her lunch every day and gives her diamonds every month “just because”. Why isn’t my husband more loving?
As the second scripture denotes, “each of you must take responsibility for doing the creative best you can with your own life.” Comparison only sets us up for disappointment and disillusionment with our own lives. It gets us nowhere fast. We must remember the adage “the grass is always greener” isn’t true, rather deceptive thinking. Realize that Christ is our only source to measure ourselves by.
“Live in harmony with one another. Do not be proud, but be willing to associate with people of low position. Do not be conceited.” (Romans 12:16)
God has us on a path specific to us. There is a reason why we’re where we are for this time and season in our lives. We may never, this side of heaven, comprehend why we’re walking the path we’re on. A life truly surrendered to Christ shouldn’t be concerned with the why? of it all. Each of us has a story and a testimony to share. We shouldn’t allow the evil one to usurp what the Lord is doing in our lives. After all, why would you want any of it to go to waste?
Comparison=Sin. Think of that famous Disney movie and “let it go!”
Let It Go!