Does the term “helpmate” seem a little sophisticated to you? It is quite simply defined as “one who is a companion and helper; especially: wife.”
One of my “go to” books is by Stormie Omartian, The Power of a Praying Wife. Over the years, I’ve highlighted and underlined it to death! I was first captured by it while reading the foreword written by, none other than her husband. In it, he says:
“I cannot imagine what my life would be without her (Stormie) praying for me. It gives me comfort and security, and also fulfills the mission the Lord has for us to pray for each other and bear one another’s burdens. I can think of no better way to truly love your husband than by lifting him up in prayer on a consistent basis. It is a priceless gift that helps him experience God’s blessings and grace. ~Signed Your covered-in-prayer husband, Michael”
I found his words to be full of wisdom, offering real insight as to how I’m to pray for my husband and just what those prayers can mean to him.
Stormie offers an in-depth compilation of what we as wives can be praying for our helpmates. Everything from his health, work, finances and relationships to fatherhood, affection, mind and fears. One of my favorite writings falls under “praying for his work” where she writes of her husband being a songwriter and record producer and that he (Michael) believes her prayers “have prevented him from working with the wrong clients.” She goes on to say that “He has never worked with anyone who is difficult, weird, evil or unsuitable, which is nothing less than a miracle in his business.” She adds, “He always knew I prayed that God would lead him to the right people and remove from his path those who would be trouble.”
Our purpose in praying for our helpmate is not to gain control over them; rather, lying down all claim to power in and of yourself and relying on God’s power to transform you, your husband, your circumstances and your marriage. This is powerful stuff. After all, our prayers don’t change God’s mind; through the discipline of praying, God transforms our thinking. It’s quite miraculous actually!
Perhaps today, together we can think about the countless ways to begin praying over our helpmate. Our spouse is God-given; take care to pray for them and watch God work mightily not only in their lives but in the lives of your family as well.
As an aside, you might be interested to know that Stormie also has a book, The Power of a Praying Husband, aiding your helpmate to pray for you as well!