So, my husband likes to tease me about how focused I get when talking to someone. He says “You are completely oblivious to whatever else is going on when you are talking to someone”. However, he’s quick to follow up that statement with this one: “You are such a good listener and give your full attention to whomever you’re talking to, making them feel like the most important person in the room.” Now that to me is a huge compliment.
In all honesty, I tend to like his second comment better than his first! While it may seem like I’m oblivious to whatever else is going on while I’m in conversation with someone, it is my way of cutting out the distractions all around me that pull my attention from the person I’m trying to talk to. If I’m being completely honest with you, I get easily distracted. You see, I’ve always been the gal who prefers to sit front row center at church, movie or some type of meeting. Why? My eyes get pulled in every direction but where they should be. I’ll be sitting there thinking, ‘I sure like her haircutI’ or ‘that is such a cute outfit, I wonder where she got it‘ or ‘what in the world are they doing?’
I really aim at giving my full attention to my son. Even now, as I’m typing this, my son is wanting to sit in my lap while I’m thinking and writing. He wants to be with me, not just in the same room. He wants my full attention. I’m not always able to focus completely on him as I’d like such as when I’m trying to cook supper, at the grocery store, and even driving. But, I try to make a conscious effort of focusing on him, as if he’s the most important person in the room, when we’re playing or spending time together outside. This has to be a conscious effort on my part. Just like you, I like to check my messages, peek in at face book, or make a phone call. My son is fully aware of these stolen moments. As a matter of fact, he’ll even go as far as close my laptop or take my phone!
Taking this just a bit further, how do we think God likes it when our attention is anywhere but on HIm? After all, the God of the Universe wants to spend time with us. Did you get that? The God of the Universe wants to spend time with you! Even though we as Moms feel completely pulled in all directions just about every moment of every day, especially if you have more than one child, we need to be intentional and choose to carve out just a few minutes within the busyness of our day to connect with Him. This helps us to re-fuel, to fill ourselves up with the truth so we can be all we can be for our family.
Consider changing your perspective. Consider putting your cellphone down. Turning off your laptop, putting up your book or turning off that great tv program you’re engaged in so that you can be in the moment with your child(ren). At the end of the day, you’ll be so glad you did! Time passes quickly and one day we’ll want to look back and see that we really connected with our children. After all, our children are gifts from God. Ultimately, they belong to Him and are loaned to us for awhile. A blink of an eye, really.
I challenge you, as I challenge myself, to be in the moment. Try it. You can always re-connect with your phone, laptop, movie or whatever distraction pulls you away from your child when they are napping or are at Mothers’ Day Out. Kids crave our attention. Don’t choke them out of your schedule. As I’m finishing this message up, my little is scooting so close to me that you couldn’t get a penny between us! Precious times.